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Father’s Day

Happy-Fathers-Day-2016-Images-Dad-Papa-Images-on-Fathers-day7 (1)It was after a long day of hard work. As usual I opened my apartment door to the aroma of something amazing from the kitchen. My wife was busily making her famous chicken curry. I slumped down on the sofa and propped my feet on the table and flicked the TV open. Then I took my phone and started scrolling through the news feed.

“There’s a bunch of mails on the table. Could you sort through it?” My wife requested. She has to repeat it several times to get my attention.

As I rummaged through the envelopes, one brown colored one caught my eye. I opened it to find it addressed as….

“Dear Dad,

Today’s your day. The day that fathers are praised. The day we tell them how amazing they have been, how much they have sacrificed, how much time they have spent to make their beloved kids and family happy.

I have faint memories of you driving me to school and Quran classes in hot sunny days, and heavily rainy ones. I remember how happy I was when you first took me fishing. I can recall how overjoyed I was when you taught me how to ride a bike. My favorite day was when we went camping together and watched as the sun rose at the age of 6. Up until today, I hold those sweet memories of you and me close to my heart.

As your only child I was a joy to you. You made me feel like the luckiest kid in the entire planet by buying me all sorts of things. You wanted to give me so much that, little did you knew that you were unintentionally spoiling me. As an excited five year old boy, I accepted that flying helicopter and showed it off to my friends as they watched it enviously.

For my 8th birthday I was given a mobile phone when my friends enjoyed puzzle games from their parents. I was so happy and felt so loved.

For my 10th  birthday, you took me to Disney Land which was like paradise for me. I was so over the moon. I couldn’t have asked for a better present. My friends told me I am the luckiest kid to have the greatest dad in the world. As I kept asking for more, you kept giving me more in return.

As I started middle school things started to get different. School started giving me more works and you couldn’t sit down with me to help because of your new job which made you work longer hours. I was so disappointed that you couldn’t pick me up from school. It started to get lonely when you couldn’t be with me during dinner time. As school presented me with tougher challenges I was in the constant need of a person to talk to. I feared I was losing you. Neither you nor my mom seemed to have enough time.

But you continue to shower me with ipads, ipods and all of the coolest thing a kid in this generation could have. It was exciting at first. But when I look up after a game of “candy crush”, it pains me to see you engrossed in your smart phone, call after call and texts after texts. I used to wait until you get a free time but the endless beeps never seemed to cease.

I realized later why you were giving me expensive gifts. It was to compensate for the time that you couldn’t give me. How dare you think that money could buy happiness for me!

Days passed by without us saying a word to each other. Not because you were angry at me, but because you simply didn’t have enough time. You were so wrapped up in your work that you hired a tuition teacher to help me. Didn’t you know I would rather have you? As weeks turned into months it somehow became normal for me. The friend I once found in you was completely gone. We became just two ordinary people living under the same roof and eating at the same table.

As I made my way through secondary school, I was constantly battling my inner self. The violent little monster inside my mind made me so tired some days. Have you forgotten the mind of a teenager dad? How you wanted to push everyone away but deep inside you wanted someone to talk to? But you weren’t there. You didn’t understand me.

You started yelling when I didn’t do my works. When I got in trouble for skipping a class in high school you sat down with me and gave me a 2 hour lecture on how immature I was. You gave me an earful of how much time you work per day, how much you were earning, how much of your salary you were paying for the bills and how I was being so irresponsible and reckless to throw it all away. It was as if I didn’t know how important it was all for you. Did you know how hurt I was? Not once did you praise me for getting a good grade but when I got in trouble in school you burned me with guilt!

Do you know how many times I come home from school and wait for you to ask me how my day went? Not once you were interested. Do you know how I longed to hear a compliment from you about my progress in school? I don’t remember a single time.

All I wanted to hear was the words of praise, encouragement for the next semester filled with love and kindness. Not a million dollar worth congratulation wrapped up in a box with a bow!

So forgive me for being such a shame. Forgive me for not bringing you good name. I am sorry I couldn’t get a job like you. I’m sorry I wasn’t successful like all your friends’ children. I’m sorry for being such a failure. I’m sorry for bringing you down. And I’m sorry for ending up behind bars. The truth is I don’t exactly remember how I really got here. I was so lost. So dear dad, glance up from your screen for once in your life and ask yourself. What could you have possibly done to create a monster like me?


Once upon a time best friend.



I sat frozen after reading the letter. I didn’t even realize when my wife came and took it out of my hands.

As I thought about the past, I realized he was right. No matter how proud I was about him I have never told him that. I have never really appreciated it. I never thought it would cause this, much effect. I never thought he went through all that. When I thought back to those days, I saw a good ordinary looking kid going to school and coming home and doing his work peacefully. I thought everything was alright. I thought he would ask me if he had any thing to talk about.

“But did you give any chance for him to ask.” The question deepened the wound more than ever.

I realized this is not just a day for children to praise their father. It is a day for us, fathers to evaluate our behavior towards our children.


PS: To all 20+ “kids”: Now don’t go on a rampage and shout at your fathers for everything. They have raised you the best they could and you better be thankful for it. Respect them for it. This letter is on behalf of all the little kids who are out there silently craving for some attention from their dads.

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Secret Of Happiness

camelOriginal story from “The Alchemist” by Paulo Coelho

This is a story within a story. And I really found it interesting.
A merchant sent his son to learn the Secret of Happiness from the wisest of men. The young man wandered through the desert for forty days until he reached a beautiful castle at the top of a mountain. There lived the sage that the young man was looking for.

However, instead of finding a holy man, our hero entered a room and saw a great deal of activity; merchants coming and going, people chatting in the corners, a small orchestra playing sweet melodies, and there was a table laden with the most delectable dishes of that part of the world.

The wise man talked to everybody, and the young man had to wait for two hours until it was time for his audience.

The Sage listened attentively to the reason for the boy’s visit, but told him that at that moment he did not have the time to explain to him the Secret of Happiness.

He suggested that the young man take a stroll around his palace and come back in two hours’ time.

“However, I want to ask you a favor,” he added, handling the boy a teaspoon, in which he poured two drops of oil. “While you walk, carry this spoon and don’t let the oil spill.”

The young man began to climb up and down the palace staircases, always keeping his eyes fixed on the spoon. At the end of two hours he returned to the presence of the wise man.

“So,” asked the sage, “did you see the Persian tapestries hanging in my dining room? Did you see the garden that the Master of Gardeners took ten years to create? Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?”

Embarrassed, the young man confessed that he had seen nothing. His only concern was not to spill the drops of oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.

“So, go back and see the wonders of my world,” said the wise man. “You can’t trust a man if you don’t know his house.”

Now more at ease, the young man took the spoon and strolled again through the palace, this time paying attention to all the works of art that hung from the ceiling and walls.
He saw the gardens, the mountains all around the palace, the delicacy of the flowers, the taste with which each work of art was placed in its niche. Returning to the sage, he reported in detail all that he had seen.

“But where are the two drops of oil that I entrusted to you?” asked the sage.

Looking down at the spoon, the young man realized that he had spilled the oil.

“Well, that is the only advice I have to give you,” said the sage of sages.
“The Secret of Happiness lies in looking at all the wonders of the world and never forgetting the two drops of oil in the spoon.”


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Revision Tips

sats1The exam storm cleared as January passed by. So before the exam-effects wear off, let me enlighten your minds with some techniques I used during the past revision season.

First of all, after June, it was so hard to get back on the saddle. The idea that you have to reopen the books that you thought you won’t be needing anymore really bummed me out. It took so many days and a lot of inspiration, motivation blah blah to start the ignition. I asked several people how they had nailed their exams. Hearing the answers, “read the notes and do past papers” repeatedly was depressing too. Well it’s not their fault ‘cause that’s pretty much what you have to do.

But the method could be brought about in different ways.

  1. Research Method

Take Biology Unit 4. There are a lot of similar questions relating to DNA, like one gene many polypeptide theory, genetic code explanation, role of transcription etc. Sometimes they may ask “Explain the structure of DNA.” In one paper it may be for 3 marks while the other it’s for 6 marks. And the marking points required will also be different. So this really annoyed me. It was so frustrating to get the answers I have written wrong each time. Because no matter how good you think you are writing you will end up missing some marking points.

So here’s the trick. Read all the notes related to DNA. I read from Stafford book this time as I couldn’t get the textbook. Stafford book is fine to revise shortly if you understand the concept in detail. So after you read, take a notebook and start doing questions related to DNA only. Start from Jan 2011 so that as you reach your way up to June 2015, you will observe the flow. Usually the questions in older papers are easier than recent ones.

You can take the questions in the notebook and write YOUR ANSWERS in a rough notebook. Then check the mark scheme to see what they have expected. Write the MARK SCHEME ANSWERS as it is under your question. Don’t forget to include the marks. Keep doing it until you finish all the DNA questions up to June 15.

Now you can easily see what the mark scheme expects from you. You can compare that same question with different marks and see what to include more and what not. And some days later you can look at the questions and guess the points too. So every time you see the questions you don’t have to search the answers from your phone/comp.

You can also keep one or two recent papers untouched until you can revise the whole unit completely. Then sit down freshly and time you while you do a paper.


Research Method 2

Take chemistry 4 for instance. And start from June 11. For chemistry I went in the order of topics. First it was Rate. After reading the notes I did all the questions relating to Rate. If you start seeing all the similar questions in one place it becomes really easy to compare them. See the following example question.

equilibrium It was hard to understand it first. Then I saw a similar one in another paper. And there was another one in section B (or C). So I brought them together and tackled them.

Don’t lose touch

Make a timetable and stick to it. (easier said than done right?) exactly. No matter how hard you try to find time, sometimes the sun sets and ends the day before you know it. But everyday do SOMETHING. Even a teeny tiny bit. Because if you stop for one day, it will be difficult to continue the next. And soon it will turn into an unproductive week.

Examination Reports

These are very useful stuff. Collect all the exam reports and as you do questions go through these too. It will help you to see how to approach the questions. You can see the common mistakes they have done and get some useful examiner tips.


Make Short notes.

Highlighters, sticky notes, colourful markers blah blah. Sounds fantastic eh? Well, do what interests you. What I did was use as I read stuffs, and as I did questions I noted down the frequently asked definitions, experimental procedures and very ….well, important looking stuff. So later as the exam nears up, you can read these notes and be satisfied.


Watch YouTube Videos

Now you don’t have to worry about having a hard time imagining how some processes occur. Just google it. For example if you can’t just grasp the idea of  DNA fragments being separated on a gel or amino acids separating on a chromatogram, just watch the video. It will be helpful.

It’s a huge platform for so many students to share their doubts and get it cleared. I came across it and was very determined to make good use of it. But end up not posting a single doubt. So don’t be lazy like me and make good use of it ok?

Group Study or Pair Study

It’s easy to lose motivation. Especially when you are re-sitting an exam. So surround yourself with people who inspires you and encourage you to keep going when you are at the weakest point. I’m glad I had you this time even though we couldn’t do that much group study. 🙂


So basically it’s doing the same questions in one place and seeing how you mess up and learning from it.

I want to thank all the teachers who helped me this time as well. The time that you had simply spared was more than what I deserved. Thank you and I ‘m sure your efforts weren’t wasted. Thank you my book lenders again for your lovely contribution. If it wasn’t for you I would have done horribly.


So don’t wait for the last minute! Start prepping for June Hurricane!

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Types Of Invigillators

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Alright, so you are all set to go for an exam huh? Revised thoroughly, got ready on time, got all the materials needed and there you go! All prepped and ready to kick that bundle of stapled sheets. But as you start your exam, you are faced with a much bigger challenge. I’m sure we all went through the “torture” of the Exam Police.

Please note that this post is not meant to hurt anyone. But hey, it could help improve your invigilating skills.

The “silent” whisperers

You really think we can’t hear you guys, don’t ya?

Okay, so you are whispering to your fellow colleague right in front of the students. It bothers us alright? Some invigilators talk non stop, all throughout the exam. The poor victims are normally at the very front or at the very back.

Jingle Bells

The bracelets with bells or the shoes with tip-tap sound is also such a pain. They walk and walk and soon that rythym will be fixed in your brain. The numbers will start to read off like a beat. Please don’t do that. Wear some silent shoes or don’t walk unnecessarily too much.

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The hover-ers

Don’t you just hate it when they come and stare at your exam paper while you try very hard to crack a tough equation? Or when you are writing an essay don’t you feel embarrassed to write what you are going to write about. So please, dear invigilators, don’t hover over the students. Just keep your distance and observe us from afar okay?  If you sense something suspicious you can fly over there.


The type who cannot stop walking! I mean from beginning to end, especially when you are doing your exam in a small classroom, just imagine how difficult it would be when he paces up and down the aisle non-stop. It’s as if he’s in a world of his own and is completely oblivion to his surroundings. Exercise is important, we get it. But get a gym will ya?

The Ghosts

When you really are in need of them, they are nowhere to be seen sometimes. And you just sit there craning your neck to see if he is there or not. Or even when he is there right outside the classroom we don’t have the nerve to call out to him. Instead you just stay with one arm raised, hoping that he will look up and notice you. And pray to god that he will see you before the time is up.

Absent Minded

So you are there standing in front of the students doing god knows what.


The Crunchers

Enjoying your little snacks over there, aren’t you? Its ok, but please don’t make loud crunching noise when you eat your “Bubbly” or “fehi mugu”.  We won’t mind if you share some though.


Why am I complaining? So peaceful without them walking and talking and jingling right? Yeah, but hello! You are here to make sure no one cheats. So eyes on the hall people!


My hero

When our papers fly away and the pencils start rolling down the desk, we really appreciate you coming to get it.


Anything else you want to add to the list? What type irritates you the most?


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It’s okay to fall

go-out-there-and-do-amazing-things-main1Have you ever wanted to do something and did you ever let the only thing hold you back be your fear of not doing it right? Have you ever been so aware of other people’s stare that you simply couldn’t get through with something? Well, you know, the thing is its okay to mess up. Because we are constantly learning by doing mistakes.

There are always going to be people who are waiting for you to fall. They are always on the look-out for a time you are going to fail. They will be agog to applaud every time you make a mistake. They will be waiting for a chance to say “Ah-Ha!” by pointing at their finger at you, as if you were born to be perfect. They will be suppressing a wicked smile all throughout and when you mess up they will erupt with mockery. And the problem will be if you are not ready for it. You have to be strong when that moment comes. You can’t let their menacing laughter shrink you down or set you running the way you came. You have to be able to take it. You should be able to absorb the heat, stand up firmly and keep going.

You are always live on stage. There is always going to be an audience. But you have to go out there and take a risk sometimes. You have to put yourself in an uncomfortable situation to make you comfortable. You have to get scared to become fearless. And while you are doing that you can’t expect everyone to close their eyes and turn away. And you can’t wait for the coast to get clear. Because the coast will never be clear.

So, don’t let that fear, uncertainty and lack of self confidence thwart yourself. You can’t let them hold you back from doing what you dream of.

So, even if you do fall, remember, it’s okay.

“The greatest accomplishment is not in never falling, but in rising again after you fall.”
-Vince Limbardi-

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Just Some HP stuff..


You see, well, I have written this post over an year ago. I don’t know why I didn’t post it back then. I think I waited to add some extra paragraphs. But now when I read it, it seemed good to go. And here is the weird part. No sooner than I have written it, there were news that J.K Rowling was planning to write a “……” (I forgot the word…is it prologue?) about Harry Potter. You know the period of time when James Potter’s batch when to Hogwarts.

Well this post was written just ramble on and on about harry potter stuff.


How many of you hate Snape? Well I did at first. I hated him for a long time, until I read the chapter Half-blood Prince. I felt so sad after I read that part and my hatred towards him vanished. The part where Voldemort kills him is so heartbreaking. It was as if a close person died. Anyway, he’s not dead in my imaginary world woohoo!

The prisoner of Azkaban

So what do u think of Sirius Black? I’m so in love with him. Well, in the third part he may appear as untidy and filthy but in the 6th part he’s so damn gorgeous. But what a pity! He also dies so soon! Why is everyone dying in this thing!

lily__snape__james__lupin__peter__sirius_by_allimaclyra-d5aq49eDraco Malfoy

Yeah the big bad bully whose the son of two death eaters eh? Well there’s something appealing in him. All the sadness and sorrow within him makes him really hot. Keke. Well you have to admit, without Malfoy, there would be less spice in it.

Professor Lupin

Who wouldn’t agree that he is the best Defence against the dark arts teacher! I enjoyed his classes immensely. It would be so fun in the Bogart’s class. I am dying to try that ‘Ridikulas spell’! They also find his end of year exams the most enjoyable. They were so practical and fun! In the story book, the under the Willow tree scene is really interesting. Its long and full of details and I enjoyed every sentence.

I wish someone would make a movie about another batch of Hogwarts students, like Harry’s dad’s generation. Then we’ll see how mischievous his father and Sirius black was. How much they bullied Snape. And we can see all the fun things they did while hiding under the Cloak. Transforming every full moon with Lupin must have been epic. But poor Lupin, he must have been in so much pain.


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Life Is All About Being Thankful For

thankful_fundrazr-e1385416479443How many times have you been brushed by death? Do you keep count or have you lost count? We may or may not know when we are about to die. But we do know that death is inevitable. It might have been that time when you were walking on the road and a coconut from a palm tree nearly missed you by an inch. Or it might have been the time when you were in a car and got almost crashed into another vehicle. Or It might have been when you were in a lift and it almost broke down. It might have been when you were asleep, and you almost stopped breathing. But you never know. You never know any of these times.

That’s why you have to be thankful. You have to be thankful for all the little things in life. All the good things that happen in your life continuously without you even realizing it. If you are not being thankful, then, you don’t have the right to complain. Because there are a million things in life that is worth being thankful for, than some little things that you need to complain about.

Just think about it. Think about it at the end of the day. Think about it before you go to sleep. How much blessed you are. Ponder about those tiny things that happen. For instance, the time you switch on a lamp with water on your hands and you didn’t get a shock. Or the time you slipped and fell but didn’t injure yourself in anyway. Or the time you got on a plane and landed safely.

Think about how many people there are who care about you even if you don’t know they exist. Think about how many people who you have influenced without even realizing it. Think about how many opportunities Allah has given you even when you didn’t see it. Think about how much Allah has provided you. And yet you don’t have “time” to say Alhamdhulillaahi. You don’t have time to pray when you spend endless hours utilizing what he has given you. We cannot spare five minutes to recite a few pages when we spend hours indulged in reading novels. We should be ashamed of ourselves, shouldn’t we?

Always say Alhamdhulillaahi. Always be thankful.


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Do you know there are different types of excitements?

Level 1

You get excited and get all jumpy and bubbly and run around and scream and turn the place upside down. That is when the excitement threshold level is reached and the meter explodes. The effect lasts very long, maybe a couple of days.  Usually those days you can’t think straight and keep on replaying the excited stuff.

Level 2

You get excited in a large group of people and keep all silent about it until you are a safe distant away to let it all out.

Level 3

You get confused-excited. It’s as if you are in an excited situation, and the neurotransmitters have been released into the synaptic cleft, yet the motor neuron is unable to pick up them. The effect is not visible.

Level 4

Shy-excitement. You are so excited. It has reached your threshold level. You are in crowd of people who is not in the same jumpy-level as you. So you are not able to jump around, scream around and turn the place upside down. So basically you are excited but too shy enough to let it reach level 1.

Level 5

Post excitement syndrome. You are excited. It could be a situation where the excitement threshold is reached. But the effect is visible long after the moment has passed. It’s as if you start clapping when everyone has stopped clapping and everyone will be staring at you.

Level  6

Zero excitement. Well this is just the time when you are subjected to an exciting situation and the excite meniscus haven’t even moved.

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A battle


Life is a battle. If you have an army of supporters, helpers, people to cheer you on, it will be easier. But you can’t fight this battle of life if you don’t take initiative. You cannot win this battle if you don’t become a leader. Because, no matter how much they encourage you, how much they try to pull yourself back on your feet, it will be nothing if you don’t have the will to keep moving forward.

You cannot expect someone to be there for you every time you fall. You cannot expect people to come and save you or to pull you back on the saddle. You cannot wait for people to tell that you can do it. You cannot wait for them to say that you have what it takes. Because you need to believe in yourself. Having faith in your self is what it takes to win this battle. Faith is the sword that can break all the barriers blocking your path. If you have faith, you will be strong. You will be strong enough to keep going all by yourself.

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A lesson From Ayoub (pbuh)

ayoubIf we look deeply into the lives of the prophets, we learn a great deal from each of them. Their lives are filled with invaluable lessons and their struggles are an inspiration. As I was reading the stories of the prophets in the chronological order, the story of Ayoub (pbuh) intrigued me immensely. I think we can all learn a very important lesson from him.

(The English name for Ayoub is Job btw)

He was a patient man who was always remembering Allah in thankfulness. A man, so patient and repentant that Iblis got jealous of him when the Angles and Allah praised him.


Iblis wanted Ayoub to reject Allah, so one by one, he destroyed what Ayoub had. First, his wealth, then his children and then his health. When his wealth was taken from him Iblis told him.

“All your wealth is lost. Some people say that it is because you gave too much charity and that you are wasting your time with your continuous prayers to Allah. Others say that Allah has brought this upon you in order to please your enemies. If Allah had the capacity to prevent harm, then He would have protected your wealth.”

True to his belief, Job replied: “What Allah has taken away from me belongs to Him. I was only its trustee for a while. He gives to whom He wills and withholds from whom He wills.” With these words, Job again prostrated to his Lord.

When his children were taken from him, his response to Iblis was:

“Allah sometimes gives and sometimes takes. He is sometimes pleased and sometimes displeased with our deeds. Whether a thing is beneficial or harmful to me, I will remain firm in my belief and remain thankful to my Creator.”

Then the Iblis targeted his health and made it worse. At first his wife stayed to comfort him but as years passed, Iblis weakend her faith. So she asked Ayoub to ask Allah to save him from the distress. But he replied:
“Tell me, how long did I enjoy good health and riches?”

She replied: “For eighty years.”

Then Job asked: “How long am I suffering like this?”

She said: “For seven years.”

Job then told her: “In that case I am ashamed to call on my Lord to remove the hardship, for I have not suffered longer than the years of good health and plenty.”


See, this is the part where we can relate. He was a good man who was continuously worshiping Allah. But when disaster struck, did he complain about how unlucky he is? Did he say that he was doing all the good deeds all those times yet that is how his life has turned out? No, he did not. Neither when his children were taken from him nor when his state of health weakened to such an extent that his friends and visitors were disgusted of him. He never complained. He kept worshiping Allah.

But look at us. For instance, let’s look at a life of a typical student. He or she may complain that he is not getting good grades no matter how much he studies. He may be completing his homework, doing the past papers and revising thoroughly. But at the end he may not see the desired result. What happens usually is, he complains. He curses and starts giving up on his dreams. But look at Ayoub (pbuh). He was doing everything right too; praying, thanking Allah, giving charities etc. But when the horrible things happened to him, did he complain? Did he turn his back on Allah? No he did not! And neither should we! He had faith. He knew that in life, good and bad things will happen. All he had to do was be patient and move on.

That is what we should keep in mind too. We have to accept the bad things in life and believe that good things will also happen. It will not always be sunshine and rainbows. There are stormy days too. We just have to be patient. Because what we are facing in our lives today is nothing compared to the battles and hardships they had to face. So we should be able to handle such stuffs.


Here is a brief Summary of his life taken from

Ibn Asaker narrated: “Job was a man having much wealth of all kinds: beasts, slaves, sheep, vast lands of Haran and many children. All those favors were taken from him and he was physically afflicted as well. Never a single organ was sound except his heart and tongue, with both of which he glorified Allah, the Almighty all the time day and night. His disease lasted for a long time until his visitors felt disgusted with him. His friends kept away from him, and people abstained from visiting him. No one felt sympathy for him except his wife. She took good care of him, knowing his former charity and pity for her.”


Reference:;s  Family History